Re-claiming Your Power from Talking Trash

I heard this somewhere a long time ago and have owned it for myself ever since.  I tell students and clients, “You Are creating your life, whether you are doing it consciously or unconsciously.  Now that you know that, which way would you prefer to do it?”

Have you ever stopped to think about how what you are thinking and what you are doing to create your reality?  Do you hear yourself sounding just like your mom or dad did when they argued or yelled at you as a child? 

 I work with people every day who are trying to re-adjust the way they think and act.  It’s not easy.  Sometimes it’s hard to catch yourself in the moment, let alone before you allow those ugly thoughts to surface, but as the light bulb goes off somewhere in that process of talking trash about yourself or someone else, that is a moment to push the pause button. 

Once paused, examine what you were just thinking or saying and ask yourself:  “Are these thoughts or words helping me become more of who I want to be or moving me away from my highest potential? “

It is in that paused moment that you have power.  You don’t have to become your mom, your dad or someone who was a role model in the past.  They were doing the best they could under the circumstances and it just so happens that you have outgrown their model of behavior.  You are looking for ways to be the conscious creator of how you think and act. 

Once you determine that the thoughts and actions are not working for your highest potential then you have several choices.  Awareness is the key to each of these.

·        Observe yourself in action as though you were a casual outside observer.

o   Once your behavior is observed from this vantage point, you will just allow it to fall away

o   You will gain understanding on how your thoughts and actions can undermine the results you have been shooting for

·        Allow yourself to transform the energy of the situation which has held you captive

o   Create a bubble, just like you do when you blow a bubble from a bubble wand

o   Allow the bubble to magnetically collect up all the judgmental thoughts and pop it

o   Meditate on the behavior if you realize it after the fact and use the tools above to assist

·        Forgive yourself for having those thoughts

o   You may have held some thoughts from infancy, hearing the adults around you expound them over and over

o   It isn’t easy to undo years and sometimes lifetimes of such programmed thoughts

o   You may have revealed a shadow side that sabotages you and if you forgive that part of you, it frees the thoughts up and allows you to let go

o   Someone else may have been gracious enough to have revealed an old programmed response within you that you can forgive and release

It takes practice, but with some perseverance, you will find that you steadily make progress toward becoming more and more of who you’ve wanted to be all along.  And you don’t have to do it alone. Meditation can help.   

If you find that you won’t look at how you are thinking and acting, someone can help you see the behavior.  Sometimes you are lucky to have friends that can be honest with you and other times you have to hire someone to hold you accountable.  

Be kind to yourself and find that person if you can’t make progress on your own.

The Power of opening your heart

Not long ago, during a meditation, I finally figured out what had been in the way of having good posture all these years. My shoulders have been pushed and shoved into “proper” posture many times, but it has always felt wrong.

During the meditation, I realized that my heart chakra and solar plexus had been pushed back and were closed. I had shut myself off from who knows what? (I have numerous ideas.)

The idea was not new to me, as a friend of mine had mentioned to me the struggle of keeping the heart chakra open when faced with an argument or a difficult situation. She discovered that consciously keeping it open allowed a healing to occur.

I had pondered this for over a year. It was while I was consciously breathing the three part breath (belly, lower chest, upper chest) that I discovered that shifting my heart forward from the spine and opening my chest, made a huge difference in my posture. It not only opened up my chest, but also opened my heart chakra in a way that shifted my perception of everything miraculously!

I have since noticed what my friend pointed out a year or so ago. It isn’t easy to keep the heart open to all the stimulus the day brings with it. There are so many times that it wants to close down and not feel the discomfort/ pain/fear. That is where consciousness comes in.

Try this when you notice yourself closing down or ego trying to take over:

· Take a breath in and think “Accept.”

· As you exhale, think the work “Release.”

· “Accept”, “Release”.

· As you breath, notice if your heart is open.

· If not, you can consciously open it as you breathe deeply. And if it is open, congratulations! Keep up the good work!

The Power of your Mind

Today I would like to talk about the power of the mind.

Everything we experience in our lives is run through the perceptions of our mind. In other words, the mind is the filter through which we edit all of the information that we perceive.

From our earliest days in the body, we see images and hear the tone of what is being said and we interpret it. In the beginning, we may not have the capacity to properly reference these images or tonalities. We are not able to put them into context, but we definitely process them and make decisions about ourselves and others based on the emotions that are generated by these early learning experiences.

The result is the creation of the filter that could be very limiting in your life. You have all heard of such statements like, ‘If you believe something will or will not happen, you will be right’ or ‘What your resist persists’. There are many, many more. You have also undoubtedly heard that you create your reality.

We live in a time where things move so fast and there is always so much to do that there is not always time to reflect. Do we become the effect of our life or the director? I have been hearing and reading so much about simplifying your life and breaking through limiting beliefs. There is power to be had in your life, and there are so many different ways to begin the process.

I have been introduced to many wonderful people who have given me little nuggets of wisdom, sometimes even without knowing it. It really begins with the honest desire to face and uncover the filters that have created the limitations, blocks and feelings that ‘There must be something more.’

There is, and it’s not out there in the fast paced world that surrounds us. It is deep inside. It is the uncharted territory that resides within....

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